Just Say Thank You
In this world of social media, we’ve lost our social common courtesies. This isn’t news to anyone, but I’m ready for it to change.
Yesterday after work, I was grabbing coffee on my way to see Mom. We joke that we’re not allowed to walk in for a visit without her Starbucks. A solo venti six- pump skinny vanilla latte. I can place that order in my sleep. I ordered hers and picked up an iced coffee drink for myself. Walking out the door with my purse slung over my shoulder, a screaming hot coffee in one hand and a way-too-full cup of cold iced coffee in the other, a gentleman — no, let’s call him a guy — was walking toward the door. I used my right elbow to prop the door open for him. He didn’t release the door from my elbow and take over the job of getting himself inside. He didn’t say thank you. He didn’t even nod at me or acknowledge my existence. He just slithered right in… For some reason, I was shocked.
I’ve been noticing for several weeks now that the majority of men don’t seem to be holding doors for women — for anyone — these days. Maybe it’s because women aren’t saying thank you. Guys, is that it? Dammit. Let’s say thank you! Acknowledge the fact that someone just recognized that, Hey, this person is human. They’re walking into the same store/bar/restaurant that I am. I think I’ll hold the door one extra second for them.
And while I’m at it: When someone says thank you, return it with a you’re welcome. Not sure or no problem or uh huh. You’re welcome! Am I being unreasonable to think that we can and should do this for each other?
Let’s challenge ourselves today… Say “thank you” to someone. Say “you’re welcome”. Tell someone you like their car/shoes/hat/tiny new kitten. Smile at a stranger. Tell someone if their tag is sticking out or they didn’t zip their pants. Take two seconds and hold the door…